“She’s Going to Be Your Wife”

 “She’s Going to Be Your Wife”

How God spoke to Steve—and why he waited to tell me.

Before Steve ever met me, he already knew about me.

He knew I had studied music, and at the time, his church was looking for a worship pastor. One Tuesday morning while driving to work, Steve says he clearly felt God speak to him:

“She’s going to get the job… and she’s going to be your wife.”

Here’s the thing—he hadn’t met me.
He didn’t know what I looked like.
I hadn’t even applied for the position yet.
We had zero connection—except the whisper of the Holy Spirit to his heart.

Now, to be honest, I’ve heard “God told me I’m going to marry you” more times than I can count. And every time, it rubbed me the wrong way.
Not because I didn’t believe God could speak…
But because so many guys used that phrase to manipulate, to rush, or to place pressure on me under the name of “God.”

It always felt like a way to get what they wanted and mask it as spiritual boldness.
It never sat right with me.

But Steve never said anything.
He didn’t tell me about that moment with God.
Not when we met. Not when we started dating. Not even when we got engaged.

He waited.

And he finally shared that story with me—two weeks before our wedding.

I was completely stunned.

Not just by the story itself, but by the wisdom and restraint he had. He knew the difference between a word from God & manipulating timing.
He never used what God told him as leverage. He didn’t rush me or try to persuade me with prophecy.
He let the process unfold… and he let God prove Himself.

That’s one of the things I fell in love with:
Steve is wise with his words.
He doesn’t speak prematurely.
He doesn’t pressure.
He listens. He discerns. And when he speaks—it’s worth listening to.

I’ve learned that real spiritual leadership doesn’t just hear from God—it knows when to speak and when to wait.

To every person who’s still waiting:
I know it can feel long. I know it can feel like everyone else is moving forward. But please—don’t settle for someone who talks a lot about hearing from God but shows no fruit of wisdom or patience.

Let God write your story.

He’s not late. He’s intentional. And when it’s time, it won’t need to be forced. It will unfold with peace, clarity, and the kind of love that reflects Christ—not control.

Wait on the one who doesn’t just speak faith but walks it out with humility.

God is still writing love stories. Let Him write yours.